Love and Career: Are They Mutually Exclusive? (Part 1)


Randomly surfing internet, I chanced upon this  interesting post on a survey done in the US about career and love…This survey was carried out for some 1000 random respondents in Feb 2009, and here’s what they found,

“Notwithstanding the U.S. economy and labor market, three out of four Americans still say that in order to achieve a happy life, a successful relationship with a significant other is more important than a successful career, a sentiment men and women echo equally…”

This made me wonder, If such a survey was to be done in India, what would the result turn out to be (If someone knows about such survey, please pass along the info) – what will people opt for…successful job?? or love of their life??..I would not like to speculate…

It would not be wrong to say that Love and Career (in any order of precedence) are the two most important things in an individual’s life… both have an impact which shapes the life to come… A bad career or a romance gone bad wrecks the innermost layers of a person… It is often said, for ultimate happiness and peace, you need to have both in right quantities… All these thoughts posted two question before me:

#1  Can such an equilibrium be reached?

# 2 Can a happy (or whatever you want to call it) love and a successful career co-exist?

Well, there is no wrong or right answer that can be provided for these questions… Also, there is very high level of individual subjectivity involved as definition of a good career and love is different across individuals…

Share your thoughts and let me know what you think about these two…


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6 thoughts on “Love and Career: Are They Mutually Exclusive? (Part 1)

  1. Ok answer no 1 – Yes such an equilibrium can be reached if both the partners think alike . If both want career and love in their lives then both will struggle to keep each other happy .
    answer no 2 – Answer same as above .
    It’s not a big deal to balance career and love life only and only if both the man and the woman disparately make efforts to strike a balance between the two ( career and love life ) If one partner tends to give more priority to either of the two then things may go bitter. It is very important that both the individuals in a relationship want career and love equally in their lives only then they won’t loose out on anything .

    Career or Relationship?Your man or your work – which would you choose? ( It’s a free test ..you must take this one! )
    http://www.3smartcubes.com/pages/tests/careerorrelationship/careerorrelationship_instructions.asp

  2. Ok answer no 1 – Yes such an equilibrium can be reached if both the partners think alike . If both want career and love in their lives then both will struggle to keep each other happy .
    answer no 2 – Answer same as above .
    It’s not a big deal to balance career and love life only and only if both the man and the woman disparately make efforts to strike a balance between the two ( career and love life ) If one partner tends to give more priority to either of the two then things may go bitter. It is very important that both the individuals in a relationship want career and love equally in their lives only then they won’t loose out on anything .

    Career or Relationship?Your man or your work – which would you choose? ( It’s a free test ..you must take this one! )
    http://www.3smartcubes.com/pages/tests/careerorrelationship/careerorrelationship_instructions.asp

  3. The most important thing is having a common dream. If you dont share/ have a common dream, you have no focus and thus all issues crop up. A life without a goal deprives you of satisfaction in a relationship and career. It leaves you confused.

    • Thanks for your comments!!

      I guess you are right about sharing a common dream…However, that common dream may not be a career…it can be leading a good, quality life and supporting each other’s dreams also…. I mean it may not be necessarily related to doing good in career individually…

  4. Hi, I’m coming a bit late to the conversation, sorry about that. But I would like to put in one idea.

    This issue is obviously a newer (ish) one, and probably contributes significantly to the divorce rate in our country. Because we haven’t figured out that balance in our society yet. More and more, women want careers (I know I do), but even coming from my parents’ generation, my mother was more than happy to give up a career and become a housewife, which surely, helped the success of my parents’ relationship in the “Love” category.

    But how do we now function that (ideally) there is no “head” of household? There is not one who is willing to so obediently follow the other. And that is what our society supports, the equilibrium of not career and love, but the equilibrium of his career and her career. So what do those of us do who want the successful relationship as well?

    I’m facing this problem currently. The guy in my situation is moving to Switzerland to further his career in music. And that’s great! But that’s not where my career path is leading me. So there is no answer. There’s only a “maybe, someday”.

    • Hi Kira,

      Welcome!

      Your views make perfect sense…and I agree that balance right now is his career and her career….

      To keep the balance, there is much larger effort required in terms of coordination and communication from both partners…You need to list down your priorities… If you feel your career needs more attention right now, so that you can reap benefits later, your decision sounds good to me….Gone are the days when we used to boast of our spouse’s career, there is extreme pressure from within to prove your worth ad justify your life in your eyes rather than looking the whole situation from angles which society has laid down….

      So, there is no right or wrong in this…just that whatever decision you take, back it with you heart and stop thinking about ‘what if’ scenarios…

      Cheers,
      Sachin

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